A breakup is hard. Going through a breakup with OCD is even harder.
We just want things to go back to normal. We get fixated on things. We idealize the past. We think: if only I didn’t have OCD, things would be different…
The reality is, you do have OCD. I have OCD, and there’s nothing we can do about it but draw closer to God, through Christ. We can’t change the past, we can only look to our future.
The most detrimental thing I have done after a breakup is think there is still a chance. When I do that, it disables me to move forward. I’m not letting go.
Sure, there may be things we regret in the past; however, if we don’t let go, we can never move forward.
I love this verse: “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” ~ Isaiah 43:19
There is nothing you or I can change about the past. That’s the killer! We want to go back and fix things. We want our old things back, but the reality is, those things are lost in time. There’s nothing we can do to retrieve them again.
What about that relationship? What about that one who got away? I’m guilty of the feeling well if I just get in the right place with God, I’ll get him back. While that is one beautiful, movie romance love story, I can’t let that become my motivation for drawing close to Christ.
I have to trust God in His word that “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” ~ Romans 8:28
The problem is, I tend to want to look to the future. Okay, so I do this and that and then God will make this happen. No! Wrong!
I just need to focus on here and now: the present. That is why it is called the present… it is a gift.
Singleness, especially during this virus, is a sad place to be. Especially if you recently broke up with someone. You can feel all alone inside, and it’s easy to let your hope wane. Sometimes, however, the bad things in our life are truly blessings in disguise. We just can’t see them.
I’m one of the worst when it comes to giving thanks, but honestly, when I do, I feel a lot better. What if I thanked God for my breakup? What if I thanked God because now I have time to focus on me? You see, in relationships, sometimes we abandon who we are to impress another person. What if I stopped trying to impress other people and just came to God honestly and sincerely to seek Him above all else? It’s not that I’m pushing others away, I’m just creating a space for me to get right with God so I can correctly love them.
Some of us jump the gun in relationships. We think about marriage, we think about a house and kids, and we forget that nothing will be established without God.
As Proverbs 16:9 states, “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps.”
I’m like a girl, crying on the side of the road, seeing all the directions my life could take. And yet, sitting at this crossroads does nothing for me. In fact, it just means I’m on enemy territory because there is no in-between with God—that is lukewarm! Either I’m all in or I’m not. And I might as well choose to be all in, because otherwise, I’m getting nowhere. I’m just sitting in self-pity, condemning myself.
When I start to place God in the center of my life, no human rejection really matters. In fact, I can kind of laugh at it actually. The only thing that matters is God’s view of me. He sees me—mess and all—and somehow still calls me His. I don’t understand it. I’m not made to understand it. His forgiveness is more than I can bare when I ask for it. It doesn’t make sense. His love doesn’t make sense. But PRAISE GOD it doesn’t make sense, or I’d be in a sad state if God loved like I love.
God has no limits to His love—it’s limitless! And that’s the beauty of it. It doesn’t matter how hard we try—He doesn’t expect anything in return. All He wants is our hearts. And you ask: but doesn’t that mean He does want something in return? My answer to you would be: c’mon, it’s the least we can give Him! It doesn’t require any work; it requires surrendering. Surrendering my heart to the One who surrendered His life for me makes a lot of sense. I gladly give it!
I don’t know about you, but I feel a lot better after this rant. I’m an imperfect person (that’s for sure), but I’m thankful my salvation doesn’t rest in my hands. If it had, I’d been condemned a long time ago. God thinks differently than us, He acts differently than us. His plans are better than we can imagine. Oh no, a breakup is not going to break me. I know who I serve, and He can do ANYTHING! Amen.
Wonderful song to get you through the hard times in life: https://youtu.be/Cd6J6Wgnv4M